"The storms come and go and the waves crash overhead" - George R.R. Martin.
Relationships are a dance and negotiation between two people.
Have you been noticing that there's been very little negotiation in your relationship?
Does your parter turn the tables on you when you give him or her feedback suggestion it's all your fault or all in your head?
Do you feel disrespected, criticized and devalued in your relationship?
When you try to leave, does your partner often find ways to entice you stay only to revert back to their old ways?
If you've answered yes to one or more of these questions, you may very well be involved with a manipulative partner. It's a confusing relationship that takes time to understand.
Therapy can help you with that. It can help you discover why you chose this person, how to set limits with them and take care of yourself, and how to safely leave should you decide that's in your best interest. The following blog post: Implicit Contracts may offer you some perspective on this kind of relationship.
And once you do have a better understanding of it, psychotherapy can help you heal from this partnership.
If you can relate to this, and would like help, please contact me for an initial consultation.